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From: Dallas
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Hi, JacksMom:

I'm sorry it took so long to respond. We just keep ElderHope alive so that people can maybe get info that will help but we really aren't checking it.

Still, I did want to respond as I read this morning.

I'm not sure what Barb would say. She's the expert.

Still, I will try to channel her.

Does she naturally remember your Granddad? Or, is family invoking Granddad's memory?

If it is the latter, it may be worth minimizing discussion about him while she is present. If his memory is being invoked, in many ways, perhaps she is reliving the grief, reigniting the grieving process. That might be inordinately painful for her.

Also, with dementia patients, the capacity to have a rational conversation is often non-existent. Explanations just won't work: they especially don't hold over time (like longer than five minutes). The condition of the brain precludes it, for the most part.

What may help is diversion: To an activity, to food, to pleasant childhood memories. Basically, the here and now, and pleasant memories of days gone by is a great place to camp. Still, there will be those occasions where she remembers Granddad. Maybe, in those times, it's best to say, "You and Granddad had so many happy years, " and go and light a candle. Of course, blow out the candle afterwards so nothing bad happens.

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Posted on 2012/6/9 2:46

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