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Hi glen and others reading this. My name is Mandy and I am a full time carer for my almost mother in law who is 93 almost and she has vascular dementia. It has been hell. I never once though it would be like this. I feel like I am living in a nightmare from which I can not escape. Gladys was diagnosed almost 6 years ago with having dementia. My partner has been in denial that there is anything wrong with his mum. Until the last 6 months I have let her do whatever it is she needs to do for herself because I wanted her to have her independence. In August last year she fell and broke her knee cap and ever since then she has deteriated rapidly. She no longer looks after her hygiene needs etc... I was waiting for my partner to step up to the role of caring for his mum but it seems that he doesn't want to so I did. I spend every waking moment with her and she sleeps in bed with me. She is incapable of doing anything without constant prompting and it is wearing me down. I feel most days on the edge of leaving. My partner and I are always fighting about her. I am here to help but the more I do the worse our arguments are. I don't know what to do. He won't place her in a facility because they are not safe enough for her fragility.
In January she had another fall and she broke her neck. There was no damage done to her spine so she is still able to walk. While on an outing last week she fell again and hurt her head. Now she has a slow bleed on her brain. He is so angry with me even though I was not out with her at the time. I demanded to take her to the emergency room which made him so upset with me. She could have died and it seems that no one cares because she is a lot of hard work. Even the doctor has told me if she breaks her neck again it would be better for her. I want her to live. I want her to enjoy the last months of her life but why can't her children. The family was not really close but were in constant contact. Me and my partner live with her in her house and have done so for the last 10 years or so. Does anyone have any advice to give me. I feel like giving up.

Sorry I have been babbling on but I didn't know where else to turn .


Posted on 2012/4/17 23:04

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