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I am hoping someone can help me to do and say the right things to my mom. We recently moved her to Texas from PA because her dementia was getting worse. She lives in an adult community with some aspects of assisted living. Mostly the people who live there are on their own , but they can get rides, and meals etc. Mom often forgets that she has moved here, and says things about when she goes back to PA. When we remind her that she is here to stay, she remembers that she sold her PA house.
She does not remember that things had gotten difficult in PA, for example dealing with electronics. She could barely work them in PA as well as here, even with the notes that I have written for her (She can still read). Anyway, last night she couldn't get her TV to turn on and because we were so far away at the time, we couldn't help her. Later in the evening, she called and said she was planning on moving back to PA, that things here are too difficult and that she didn't have these problems in PA. She was very serious. I try to explain that she did have these issues in PA but she refuses to agree.
Can someone tell me what I need to be saying to her to gently explain that she has pretty bad dementia and doesn't remember how bad things were in PA? How do we help her to understand her disease. She does understand ALL of our conversations, but she forgets them 5 minutes later... Please help!!!

Posted on 2011/11/14 9:05

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