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From: Rowlett
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Dear Reader,
Your message really reflects a lot of what I hear from adult children of parents who have some sort of dementia. As much as we would like to help our parent, unless he or she is declared incompetent and unable to care for themselves, all we can do is devise ways to "work around" the problems with their thinking and remembering. This can be frustrating and difficult, to say the least. It sounds as though you are really doing all you can right now - deal with the present while preparing for the future! I truly respect and admire your desire to try to help your father -

You mentioned that your father has a dog and wants to stay at home with her - well, one thought to consider is that some assisted living centers allow pets in the resident's rooms. It mostly depends on the facility, the size of the pet and how well the resident can care for the pet . . . you may want to start looking over some of the facilities in your area that specialize in caring for those with dementia, in case your father should need to move in the future.

For the present, however, it sounds as though you and your sister are taking care of your father as well as anyone could . . . please remember to complete the paperwork for his end-of-life decisions - meaning the Power of Attorney, living will, advance directives, etc. And, don't forget to take care of yourself, too!!!!!!!! Please take time out for you and your needs - because you really can't take care of your father if you don't take care of yourself too. Looking forward to hearing from you again -
Barb :P

Posted on 2002/7/25 20:29

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