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Posted by: 4Hope Posted on: 2001/10/15 6:59
Just read your message and it sounds like this situation with your family, that is - trying to care for your grandfather and not getting help from other family members, may need a "round table discussion" where everyone can get things out in the open. This way, you can express your thoughts about what you may need from them and they can have their say . . . now, I'll be the first to admit that this is probably harder than it sounds and you may never get all family members to agree or to even try to help, but at least they will know how you feel, rather than letting resentment and other stressful feelings escalate for you.
And, about your grandfather - you said that his memory has been failing. Is this a sudden decrease in memory or has this been going on for years? It may be helpful to have your grandfather's doctor give him an exam and see if this memory thing is related to medications, to some sort of dementia, or what.
Lastly, you may want to find out if you can get some sort of help through your Area Agency on Aging in your community. You can check them out in the internet and then find the one that is in your state . . . they may be able to find resources for you that will help your grandfather, thereby helping you and your husband!
I don't know if any of this will help but let us know how you are coming along. As the messages before you suggest, family relationships can really struggle when one person is the main caregiver . . . please take good care! Barb